How has What Women Want Changed?
You may ask what women want in a relationship as long as you understand that it depends on where they are in lives. A teenager girl does not want the same thing as a woman who is soon to leave her twenties and enter her thirties and she is not looking for the same thing as a woman in her fifties. As well, a single lady is looking for different things then a married woman who has children still at home. Yet, all of these different women will have some basic things in common when looking to the type of man they want to get to know. They are looking for honesty, compassion, the ability to laugh and share. They want their man to be prepared to give up other women when they are together. But there is so much more to what women are looking for in their lives than the men who will be a part of it.
What women want is to be treated like an equal. They want their independence but they need to be able to rely on their partner to be there for them when their world takes a turn for the worse. They want to be respected and will in turn give the respect due. Women deal with a mix of emotions and needs just like men, but they are more open about them. They do not want to be pitied when something important goes wrong. They want to be comforted, understood and supported. She will change what her goals are over time, just like her man, but she will often have more things to consider when she makes these changes. If it is a career change she wants to make, returning to school, or taking a break and not working for a while all these things need to be weighed against what effect they have on her, her man, her children and her situation. Her choices are not that easy, she needs to be listened to and understood.
A married woman with small children will not necessarily feel she can go back to school. She may decide to work part time, when her little ones are in play school, because she does not want to leave the raising of her children to strangers. It is even harder for single mothers. What women want today is to be able to do it all, and they think they can. Women of yesterday where contented to stay at home, cook, clean, mend and care for the needs of their children and their husbands. This is what they were brought up to believe was to be their lot in life. But, when their kids had grown and left home they did not know what to do with themselves. Nor were they respected as individuals in that time. It was how their husbands did that reflected on their accomplishments.
What women want now is to be respected for their own accomplishments. They do not want to be seen only as someone’s girlfriend, someone’s wife or mother. They do not want reflected glory from the accomplishments of their spouses, parents or children. They want to be acknowledged for who they are and what they do. In short women want what men have always had. The right to be themselves and succeed or fail based on their own abilities and accomplishments.
